The Proper Use For Dry Peaches

i'll let you know when i know.

ryrysparkleby:

suss on men who have to debrief with all their friends who are woman about how some guy they know is so misogynist and sexist. why not talk to you bro friends about it so you can all learn something together. don’t just come to us to debrief and get your ego stroked as a good feminist guy, we obviously get it- there are sexist guys, and the way your talking makes me think your probably using some smokes and mirrors [whether its intentional or not] to deflect from the fact that you as a man are also sexist and misogynist sometimes. Its okay- just try to be as sexist and misogynist as little as possible, if i tell you off why- argue with me and make me feel like i’m the crazy bitch? just admit you were sexist and apologize then i’ll stop feeling so irrationally angry about it for so long. 

(via everythingbutharleyquinn)

I hate when the choice of how to open a mix CD comes down to one of two options.  The decision impacts everything, no decisions can really be made until that decision is made. 

Anyway.  Anyone want a copy of my “Not Cheesy Love Songs” mix CD?  That one is actually done and I’m really proud of it and will send it to anyone. 

Sometimes you’ll be talking to someone who you’ve talked “politics” with for like years and they’ll say something like “hmmm…I never thought of breast cancer as a political issue.”  And you’ll be like: “um.  what were we talking about?  EVER?!!!?!?” 

I am 75%/25% hate/like with Derick Jensen….but I can’t think of you as anything but….like, someone whose politics I don’t trust at all…if you don’t 100% hate Robert Jensen.  Seriously.  He’s fucking creepy.  Dude’s watched way too much porn to think of you as human. 

I am on Radiohead’s mailing list and it’s really just embarrassing.  I mean…the e-mails seriously come from “W.A.S.T.E.”  I can imagine the impulse to do that, but I can’t imagine not having enough shame to resist it. 

Manipulation (guilt, dirt) vs. Innocence.  Am I a weak fucking woman to allow you to be “innocent?”  Or am I fucking wrong?!?!?????   Are you guiltily and dirtily MANIPULATING me? 

I guess all I’m sure of is that men are not dogs. Dogs *should* be rewarded for anything they do to make you think of them as innocent, 100%.   And I’m also pretty sure these questions are probably besides the point. 

Lady Gaga - “Honest Eyes”

“It’s all right baby I’m nobody’s mother, just don’t want this last cigarette to be over” is still one of my favorite lines.

God I was so maliciously overjoyed (as a Gaga fan, mind you) when “Born this Way” came out after all those queer theorists were saying Gaga was the queerest thing ever. I remember having that elated feeling in my heart imagining all the Foucault/Gaga memes that would (and did) follow. 

But now I realize I wish she’d stuck with songs about being rich and obnoxious :-/  They were so good.

The reason I wanted Keith Urban as a therapist was that I have never been honest with any therapist about the extent of my paranoia.  I mean, why would I?  I am PARANOID!  But I’m just so sad he disappointed me.  Calling Janelle “not authentic enough” and not like, feeling it enough, when she did Dolly’s “Dumb Blonde” was the final straw.  It reminded me again that stupid men are never innocent and I can’t trust Keith Urban with my paranoia and I can’t trust anyone with it and I’ll never know how to figure out what’s reasonable and what’s insane. 

I’m sure you’ve already heard, but in case not, I’ll let you know that being “radical” means you can do whatever you want, wherever you want, with no thought of the consequences for others.  Don’t ever let The Man tell you you can’t do whatever you want, wherever you want, with no thought of the consequences for others. 

Last night was very emotionally taxing in a “GET OUT OF MY HOUSE” type way.  First my webcam turned on and then turned off and then turned on again.  Granted it’s a new Windows 8 and I’m inadvertently touching all sorts of shit all the time, but this time I was just reading a book on my lap and not touching anything.  So I spent like an hour researching RATS (as far as I can tell just dudes who hack into your computer and look at you on your webcam and then sometimes SPEAK to you) and how turning the mic/camera off doesn’t really do anything and how anti-virus software doesn’t really protect you, and really just that this happens freaks me the fuck out.  That led to an hour of researching tracking devices that can be put on phones and then I wanted to cry and throw all of my electronic devices out the window.

Then my sister came home and found a bedbug.  Then that led to an hour of research on bedbugs and then that made me want to cry and throw everything else out the window, and then I got really high and finally went to sleep and had a dream about bedbugs. 

Honestly I’ll take the harmless insect over the sexual predator in my computer any day, but (the possibility of) both in one night is a little much. 

Finally worked up the nerve to comment on one of my fave band’s instagram pics and accidentally sent the comment mid-sentence (you can’t delete comments on instagram as far as I know).  I am so red right now.  I am just really hopeless when it comes to the internet. 

ourcatastrophe:

the whole “socially liberal, economically conservative” thing is so male

I mean it’s obvious that right-libertarians are a bunch of young white dudes who spend too much time editing the “criticisms of feminism” section of wikipedia

but also, I cbf digging any of them up but I keep running into studies of voting patterns showing that men are more “socially liberal, economically conservative”, and women are, conversely, way less into capitalism and possibly more socially conservative

which makes sense because women are more likely to be poor, more likely to have a lot of responsibility for a lot of people, even partnered women are more likely to be responsible for managing family finances and actually making sure everybody eats and they don’t get evicted, and etc

it’s also worth noting here that women’s “social conservativism” is often reckoned with reference to stuff like their feelings on drugs and R-rated movies and asinine “free speech” defences of hateful tripe, individualist, hedonist stuff, rather than attitudes to marginalised groups or liberatory social movements

while these are of course overlapping concerns, there is a large and concrete difference between a discourse like “criminalisation of drug users targets already vulnerable people” and “420 blaze it the government can’t tell me what to do, it’s not my problem if other people can’t handle this shit”

having said that, a lot of women are really invested in stuff like the family and religion, sometimes in a really conservative way, and I think it’s important to think about why that is and what women might find alienating about secularism or discourses of sexual liberation and how we as the Left are approaching that